One Step Behind

 

Although I’ve never been homeless, it feels like I don’t have a home. All my life, I’ve struggled to find and accept one. To me, a home is a place where you feel content and secure. I’m so close to finding this sanctuary that it pains me, but I’m not there yet. I think that if it weren’t for my troubled childhood, I would be able to find a place to call my own.

Growing up with two alcoholic parents doesn’t exactly set you up for success. I did have a perfect childhood, until my parents split up. After the divorce, my sister and I started living with our mother. This is when her alcoholism truly took control of her life, and ours. We would come home from school not knowing whether or not she would be intoxicated. At eight, I started to become traumatized by her instability and behavioral antics. We were too young to realize what was going on, but this had become our new life. Because of her alcoholism, I was forced to become an adult and take care of her while I raised my sister as well as myself. This life had broken any and all the memories I had of a home. Ten years later, I had a second chance of finding a place to call my own.

When I was eighteen, I moved in with a friend and his family. They accepted me and treat me like their own. I appreciate everything they’ve done for me and am eternally grateful, but even with all their support and love, I can’t help but to hesitate about calling their house my home. The constant tension within the house triggers something within me, making it difficult to relax there. because of the tension, I still return not knowing what I’m coming back to. This instability brings me back to when I was with my mother. They truly try to make me as comfortable as possible, but I’m still stuck in the past.

The closest thing to home I’ve ever had was my dorm at SUNY Geneseo. It was just me and my cat. I had my own space. The major difference was that the dorm was “mine.” I didn’t have to be anxious about what I would come back to. I had a safe space. This fall I will start an intercultural and interpersonal communications degree at SUNY New Paltz. I will once again be dorming and to me that means I’ll have a temporary home. I understand that home is what you make of it, but I just can’t adapt to living with others yet. I think that in order for me to let go of my past, I need to live on my own for the time being.

Home matters to me, as it should to everyone. Although I’m not quite there yet, I believe that my home is out there waiting for me. I’m not sure how I’ll get there, but I know I will. In the end everything works out, I’m just one step behind. 

-Heather Trimboli                                                                                                                                                                           

 

Credit 101 Workshop , May 28

RUPCO & Citizens Bank present a series of FREE Credit 101 Workshops.

March 28, 2019
5:30-7:00 pm

The Kirkland Building
2 Main Street
Kingston, NY 12401

This workshop will provide valuable information on important aspects of your credit making it easier to qualify for a mortgage.

Tips will include

•Understanding your credit report
•Improving your credit
•Reducing your monthly debts

Find out how RUPCO programs can help you reach your goals.

REGISTER TODAY!

First-time Homebuyer Informational Session, May 15

Ready to buy your first home, but don’t know where to start?

This in-person, hour-long First-time Homebuyer Informational Session outlines the RUPCO HomeOwnership Center’s Homebuyer Program and the path to homeownership.

Call 845-331-9860 or email dfnostrand@rupco.org to register today!

Walk-ins welcome!

The Kirkland, 2 Main Street, Kingston NY 12401

 

RUPCO Home Repair Grant Informational Meeting, May 9

This public meeting will provide information on the new Ulster County Community Development Block Grant (CDBG)  that RUPCO will administer on behalf of the County of Ulster. CDBG monies will be directed to repairs to eligible owner-occupied homes in Ulster County (excluding the city of Kingston).

We will also discuss other programs if available.

Bring your questions as we will be fielding those questions after the presentation.

May 9, 2019
5:30-6:30 pm

RUPCO Kirkland Building, main floor, Senate Room
2 Main Street, Kingston NY 12401

Register online here!
or call 845-331-9860
or email dfnostrand@rupco.org to register today!

 

Sullivan County First-time Homebuyer Informational Session, April 23

Want to buy a home in Sullivan County?

Learn about first time homebuyer resources to help you purchase your first home!!

Tuesday  April 23, 2019  

5:30 – 7:00 PM

Sullivan County Government Center : 100  North Street , Monticello NY 12701

Register Here!

 

OR Call 845-331-9860 or email dfnostrand@rupco.org to register today!

 

 

First-time Homebuyer Informational Session , April 17

Ready to buy your first home, but don’t know where to start?

This in-person, hour-long First-time Homebuyer Informational Session outlines the RUPCO HomeOwnership Center’s Homebuyer Program and the path to homeownership.

Call 845-331-9860 or email dfnostrand@rupco.org to register today!

Walk-ins welcome!

The Kirkland, 2 Main Street, Kingston NY 12401

Taller Informativo para Compradores de Vivienda en Español, Febrero 27

¿Listo para comprar su primera casa, pero no sabe por dónde empezar?

Descubra cómo los programas de RUPCO le pueden ayudar a alcanzar su objetivo de ser propietario de una vivienda.

Esta sesión informativa para compradores de vivienda primerizos describe el programa del Centro de Propiedad de Vivienda de RUPCO y el camino hacia la propiedad de su propio hogar.

¡Registrese Hoy!

¡Llame 845-331-9860 o envíe un  correo electrónico dfnostrand@rupco.org para registrarse hoy!

The Kirkland, 2 Main Street, Kingston NY 12401Volante que muestra el edificio Kirkland en 2 Main Street en Kingston NY y un grupo alrededor de una mesa para un taller informativo para compradores de vivienda, promoviendo un taller informativo para compradores de vivienda el 27 de Febrero de 2019 de 6-7 PM para averiguar cómo RUPCO puede ayudar a los compradores de vivienda primerizos alcanzar su objetivo de vivienda

 

Credit 101 Workshop , January 22

RUPCO & Citizens Bank present a series of FREE Credit 101 Workshops.

January 22, 2019
5:30-7:00 pm

The Kirkland Building
2 Main Street
Kingston, NY 12401

This workshop will provide valuable information on important aspects of your credit making it easier to qualify for a mortgage.

Tips will include

  • Understanding your credit report
  • Improving your credit
  • Reducing your monthly debts

Find out how RUPCO programs can help you reach your goals.

Register today!

Flyer promoting a credit 101 workshop in kingston ny sponsored by rupco and citizens bank , showing an image of a pencil on a calculator, an image of the kirkland building in kingston ny

Career Opportunity: Maintenance Technician

THIS POSITION HAS BEEN FILLED 11/13/18: The Maintenance Technician is responsible to assist in the day to day maintenance of all RUPCO owned or managed properties. The Maintenance Technician reports directly to the Maintenance Supervisor of RUPCO.  This is a full time position, hourly position.  Duties may include, but are not limited to:

Position Responsibilities:

  1. Use of work order system to accomplish maintenance tasks as assigned. Accomplish unit turnarounds including make ready time.  Provide unit inspections as required.
  2. In association with the Assistant Vice President of Operations and the Maintenance Supervisor, contribute to the development and implementation of preventive maintenance plan. Maintain high quality maintenance standards.
  3. Maintain rental units to include preventive, daily cleanliness and condition of grounds and common areas, emergency repairs or services.
  4. In association with the Assistant Vice President of Operations and the Maintenance Supervisor, assist with vendor relations; including obtaining Hold Harmless Agreements and ensuring compliance with insurance requirements.
  5. Complete required reports. Maintain maintenance files as required.
  6. Provide research and initiative in the area of maintenance or property management.
  7. Maintain compliance with all federal, state and local regulations and other mandated guidelines and policies relevant to property management and operations including safety and quality assurance.
  8. Provide ‘on-call’ after-hours weekday, weekend and holiday coverage as scheduled
  9. Perform additional duties as assigned.

Required Knowledge, Skills, Education and Experience

  • Basic knowledge of general maintenance repairs (plumbing, electrical, carpentry, etc.)
  • Basic knowledge of equipment used to perform general maintenance repairs
  • Able to lift at least 50 lbs., climb stairs & ladders, not afraid to get hands “dirty”
  • Valid & acceptable driver’s license endorsed by agency insurance company
  • Reliable transportation to get between worksites
  • Enthusiastic, friendly and positive attitude
  • Able to work independently but also as part of the team in a fast paced environment
  • Strong organizational skills
  • Attention to detail
  • Excellent communication skills: written and oral
  • Experience in a customer service environment (our tenants are our customers)
  • Tolerance and sensitivity to a diverse population
  • Strong work ethic

Please submit notice of interest for this position to jmichels@rupco.org by no later than Friday, October 26th at noon. 

There’s no Place Like Home

Dorothy was right, there is no place like Home. For most, when you hear the word “Home” there is a strong feeling of nostalgia attached. Family is typically the main association and with that comes a sense of familiarity, security, love, trust and care.

When I think of Home, I remember baking cookies with my mom, throwing a baseball back and forth with my dad, completing homework at the kitchen  able and playing with my siblings and neighborhood friends.

When I was in school, I could not wait for the final bell to ring that meant I could go Home. Home was always the place I could be my most authentic self. At school, I was very quiet and shy. Though I was engaged in many school activities, I kept to myself and had only a few close friends. However, once Home, I had no reservations. Home was the place I felt most comfortable. If I felt excited, I could show it. If I needed to cry, I could let it out. There was no judgement or expectation behind those walls. My family and I, shared our most raw and honest versions of ourselves.

My Home was where my heart was. I carried Home with me as I formed my individuality there.

For me, my image of Home is a happy one. For others it can be a painful. But no matter the personal experience, the expectation for a Home comprises a sense of ownership, identity and self-hood. It was not until I went away to college that I realized what Home really was for me. As a teenager I craved small freedoms and new experiences; but once I received them I began to rethink what I wanted. Transitioning to a new living accommodation – a dorm suite that lacks privacy and familiarity – was especially difficult. A wonderful and trans-formative experience for many students, college living begins when you receive the keys to your “Home” on campus: a 15 x 15 space equipped with a complete stranger. Over the next nine months, I learned to make the best of my situation and space. With a roommate, you can find either a friend or a foe in your dorm room. In my college living experiences with roommates, I found that my dorm could either be a space I wanted to be in one or one I could not be away from enough. On campus, the disconnect between ‘housing’ and ‘home’ really came into focus.

I experienced homesickness to its fullest extent during my first few years of college. “Homesick” is a term many college students are accustomed to. By definition, the word homesick describes “a longing for one’s home during a period of absence from it.” With calls home to Mom and Dad, once, twice or three times a day, I counted down the days to vacation and longed for a comfortable night’s sleep in a bed that did not feel like a nail coffin.

Over time I became used to the dorm, the space, the roommates. I learned to live within those quarters without letting it take away from my overall great college experience. Nevertheless, I never considered my college room ‘Home’ because it lacked everything that made my family’s house the place I felt most comfortable, accepted and loved. I got past dorm life and now rent an apartment of my own. And, while I do love my apartment and the space and privacy it provides, it still does not have the same warmth and comfort I was lucky enough to have growing up. I understand it is a part of life to outgrow my Home, even if my family reassures me that I am always welcome to come back. The next course in life lies in finding what makes my house feel like a Home again. I know it can never the same, but I can learn to love this new place just as much. No Home is perfect, but those small fallibilities make each Home and family unit unique. At the end of the day, I see Home nurturing positive outcomes in my physical and mental health, education, employment, and relationships.

Home Matters because it is the place where I spend most of my time outside work or school. Home matters because it is the place that allows me to be the most honest version of myself. Home is where we start from. It is where we grow and thrive. But most importantly, home matters because it is the place you can be yourself with no inhibitions, to experience and share love, and be loved just for that.

Emily Humphrey is a 2018 SUNY New Paltz graduate majoring in Sociology and recently moved to a new apartment to call Home.